Yes, early infatuation is very intense, and with the day to day grind, no one can sustain the constant high of that feeling of first falling in love. But companionate love? No, I don't think so.
I think relationships take work. I think there are ebbs and flows, peaks and valleys like everything else. Putting in overtime at work, moving house, and taking care of kids is going to affect any couple. But I think every one should strive to take a day, or even an hour or two, and put everything but their partner on the backburner.
That's one of the reasons I love reading steamy romances. I love getting ideas of how to keep the passion and romance alive, that little zing reading about people falling in love, and thinking of my own relationship. Long term relationships are exciting, just as much as new love. You already know each other's fantasies, each other's turn ons and could probably make a map of each other's erroneous zones.
Plan something special for your partner, where you surprise or seduce them. Say words you never say, or dress up in something he has never seen you in. Surprise and anticipation is just as sexy in long time couples as in new ones. Think out of the box a bit.
Leave a written note in his lunch or a sexy text telling him what you'd like to do to him when he comes home later. Pack off the kids and take the phone off the hook. You know that camera feature on your cell phone? Use it. Or give him a little dance in person. You don't have to be any good, so don't worry about your dancing. Men react to women shaking ANYTHING at them, I've found (lol). They are visual creatures, so just give them something to see. Let him know how much you appreciate what he does for you, and show your appreciation.
Another article I read talked about men doing housework and found men who received more sex from their wives helped out more in the house. Very interesting. So, you see, the pay offs are enormous. Every investment made in your relationship comes back to you a hundred fold, in surprising ways.
|Like maybe he cooks naked for you. Really, do you care if he burns the food?|
I say fight against settling into companionate love, and keep those home fires burning.
With just a bit of effort, you will at least have some fond memories when the kids are waking you up at 2 am, until the next time....